Thanks for commenting and sharing your experience. Whilst it's great that you realise it's not really a "mismatch of values", it's him that needs to realise that, not you. While he may think he's breaking up with you due to his "values" , he will continue to have "ROCD" (Relationship OCD) i.e. ruminations, compulsions, doubts, jealousy, fear, controlling behaviours etc. in every relationship with anyone he cares about unless he resolves this. Breaking up with your partner is just another 'controlling' compulsion, it has nothing to do with "values". I recognise the behaviour because I did that with my current partner too when I was suffering from RJ. But those "values" were total bullshit. It was just RJ. But if he wants to "take the easy way out" then that's on him. But he will suffer unless he does something to address these "beliefs" he has around his supposed "values". On another level, it's not clear to me now why anyone would "value" having a partner that didn't explore their sexuality. Does he think he's "safer" with a partner that hasn't been promiscuous? Or that somehow a partner with a smaller body count is more intrinsically valuable? That makes little sense and is actually a really bizarre way of looking at women (people) and the world. I can see that now, but he ultimately needs to realise it for himself.