Hi Gerben. Great to hear you're recovered/almost recovered. Behaviours can be tricky to change as there's a lot of mental rewiring to be done. From my own experience, it wasn't just 'changing behaviours' but also 'changing beliefs' which ultimately killed my RJ. But, from my own experience, beliefs can often be trickier to change, as many of them aren't conscious so there's often a lot of cognitive dissonance involved.

I've been thinking about writing another article about how my RJ ultimately disappeared , but it's a bit of a complicated story, and it wasn't just down to one thing. It's been way over a year now since I last had any type of RJ and I'm back with the partner who triggered it for me. I can't begin to describe how liberating it is to be in a place where I'm not ruled by the tyranny of RJ anymore, and I can only advise anyone with RJ to make an effort to recover.

As you yourself have clearly learned/are learning: if you make the effort to get better, face your fears, and learn the art of acceptance/surrender, you can kill RJ for good. Keep killing it!